We have our officiant! It feels great to have something (anything!) to check off the list. Nevermind that there is no date yet.
I always knew who I wanted to officiate my wedding. I was looking for someone who has presence, who shares my spiritual values, and who will really stick to what we want. My choice, Pam is my former youth pastor at my parents' church. Now she teaches the young couples class that the fiance and I are lucky enough to be able to sit in on when we are in town.
In the past I never really considered the officiant to be such an important part of the wedding. That is, until the last wedding I went to where the pastor forgot to announce the kiss! The couple had practiced a wonderful kiss for days and then at their wedding they had to give each other an awkward unannounced peck. This same pastor kept telling bad jokes too. At that point I realized that I needed someone who is articulate and thoughtful leading my ceremony.
Tuesday, January 6, 2009
Sunday, January 4, 2009
Withholding a Favor
Today I spent most of the day cleaning out my old closet at my parents' house. I was pretty disgusted to see some of the crap that I've not gotten rid of in the 6 years since I have moved out of their house. Oddly enough, I came across lots of favors and memorabilia from weddings. The favors had not even been opened out of their packaging. What a waste!
So, I have decided to forgo wedding favors. Often they are just a trinket that is left behind, or they sit in somebody's closet until she gets over the guilt that has kept her from throwing it away earlier. I say 'she' because most men have enough sense not to take the favor in the first place!
There will be out of town bags, though. I think that it is really important to show friends and family our gratitude for making the trek to the wedding!
So, I have decided to forgo wedding favors. Often they are just a trinket that is left behind, or they sit in somebody's closet until she gets over the guilt that has kept her from throwing it away earlier. I say 'she' because most men have enough sense not to take the favor in the first place!
There will be out of town bags, though. I think that it is really important to show friends and family our gratitude for making the trek to the wedding!
Saturday, January 3, 2009
Getting Started...
I love wedding planning. Actually, I just love planning. I'm one of those freakish, type-A personalities that loves making budgets, to-do lists, and time lines. However, I'm on a budget, which means that I'll need to do as much as possible myself, but still, I'm a medical student so I don't have lots of time to DIY everything. This blog is my attempt at reconciling my (sometimes) expensive tastes, my teensy budget, and my lack of spare time in this wedding-crazed world.
First things first...the priorities...
1. Fun and fed
I have been to too many weddings where I was dying to leave so that I could get some real food. Cocktail weenies just don't do it! I want my guests to enjoy themselves and be stuffed full of food. If people are coming from around the country to my wedding, I want it to be an event worth coming to. It doesn't have to be filet mignon; it just needs to be enough to satisfy both my carnivorous and herbivorous friends and family. This is a celebration, and I want it to feel that way!
2. Photography-I am a sucker for good photography. A good photographer can make an average wedding look stunning. A bad photographer can make a nice wedding look cheesy. After it's all done the photographs (and the spouse!) are what you have left.
Not priorities...
1. Wedding dress-So don't get me wrong-of course I want a beautiful wedding dress, but I refuse to spend a month's rent on it! This is one place where the WIC really makes me angry. Don't try to sell me some ugly, cheap-looking dress for $1000 just because I'm in a fancy wedding boutique. Fortunately I can take this stance because I don't like poufy, beaded, "traditional" wedding dresses. I'm a simple girl with a simple style that J. Crew can dress just fine! That being said, I understand that many, many brides really care about the dress. I'm just not that girl.
2. Invitations-How many times have I heard "invitations set the tone for the entire wedding". Puh-lease! I really appreciate getting a nice invitation in the mail, but I bet I will have forgotten what it looked like by the next week. I want attractive, unique invitations so I will make them myself...as cheaply as I possibly can.
3. Save the Dates-Anybody that is important enough to be invited to my wedding will be personally told the wedding date as soon as I know what it is. STDs are unnecessary.
So that is where I am starting from. I can't wait to see where this process takes me. My overall goal is to have a fun, stress-free, wedding. I hope that this blog can help me focus on that.
First things first...the priorities...
1. Fun and fed
I have been to too many weddings where I was dying to leave so that I could get some real food. Cocktail weenies just don't do it! I want my guests to enjoy themselves and be stuffed full of food. If people are coming from around the country to my wedding, I want it to be an event worth coming to. It doesn't have to be filet mignon; it just needs to be enough to satisfy both my carnivorous and herbivorous friends and family. This is a celebration, and I want it to feel that way!
2. Photography-I am a sucker for good photography. A good photographer can make an average wedding look stunning. A bad photographer can make a nice wedding look cheesy. After it's all done the photographs (and the spouse!) are what you have left.
Not priorities...
1. Wedding dress-So don't get me wrong-of course I want a beautiful wedding dress, but I refuse to spend a month's rent on it! This is one place where the WIC really makes me angry. Don't try to sell me some ugly, cheap-looking dress for $1000 just because I'm in a fancy wedding boutique. Fortunately I can take this stance because I don't like poufy, beaded, "traditional" wedding dresses. I'm a simple girl with a simple style that J. Crew can dress just fine! That being said, I understand that many, many brides really care about the dress. I'm just not that girl.
2. Invitations-How many times have I heard "invitations set the tone for the entire wedding". Puh-lease! I really appreciate getting a nice invitation in the mail, but I bet I will have forgotten what it looked like by the next week. I want attractive, unique invitations so I will make them myself...as cheaply as I possibly can.
3. Save the Dates-Anybody that is important enough to be invited to my wedding will be personally told the wedding date as soon as I know what it is. STDs are unnecessary.
So that is where I am starting from. I can't wait to see where this process takes me. My overall goal is to have a fun, stress-free, wedding. I hope that this blog can help me focus on that.
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